Life Understudy

How to Create the Life You Want

Identifying Your Current Reality

To begin assessing your reality, start by taking a step back and examining your life as a whole. Consider the following areas:

  • Career: Are you happy with your job? Do you feel fulfilled in your career?
  • Finances: Are you financially stable? Do you have a plan for saving and investing?
  • Relationships: How are your relationships with family, friends, and significant others? Are they healthy and supportive?
  • Health: Are you taking care of your physical and mental health? Are there any areas you need to focus on?
  • Personal growth: Are you continuing to learn and grow as a person? Are you pursuing your passions and interests?
  • Recreation:  Do you have enough ‘me time’? When last have you done your favourite hobby?

Take some time to reflect on each of these areas and identify any areas that need improvement. Be honest with yourself and don’t be afraid to acknowledge areas where you may be struggling.

Clarifying Your Values and Priorities

Your values are the principles and beliefs that guide your decisions and actions, and they play a significant role in shaping your life.

To define your values, start by reflecting on what matters most to you. Ask yourself questions like, “What do I care about the most?” or “What principles do I want to live by?” Make a list of the top three to five values that come to mind.

Here are some examples:

Achievement vs Altruism – Would you rather being committed to personal success or would you find fulfillment in helping others and contributing to well being of your community?

Wealth Building vs Free Time – Would you opt for building wealth over leisure and hobbies?

Prestige & Influence vs Family Life – Would you rather recognition, influence or fame over maintaining tight family bonds?

Security vs Adventure – Does seeking adventure and trying new things scare you or would you prefer to make safe and predictable choices?

Intellectual Simulation vs Comfort – Does the craving for intellectual stimulation beat the comfort of a familiar routine?

Once you have identified your values, rank them in order of importance to you. This will help you make decisions when there are conflicts between your values. For example, if one of your values is family, and another is career, you may need to make choices that balance both of these values.

Creating An Inspiring Vision

To create an inspiring vision, you need to have a clear understanding of what you want to achieve in life. This requires introspection and reflection. Ask yourself questions like:

  • What do I want to accomplish in my lifetime?
  • What legacy do I want to leave behind?
  • What kind of person do I want to be known as?

Once you have a clear idea of what you want, write it down in detail. Be specific and use vivid language to bring your vision to life. Use the following guidelines to create an inspiring vision:

  • Make it inspiring: Your vision should inspire and motivate you to take action.
  • Make it specific: Your vision should be specific and clearly defined.
  • Make it challenging: Your vision should be challenging enough to push you out of your comfort zone.
  • Make it realistic: Your vision should be achievable with hard work and dedication.

See a sample vision below:

“My vision is to lead a fulfilling and vibrant life that aligns with my core values and passions. I see myself living in a spacious, comfortable home with an outdoor space to grow a garden and enjoy nature. I wake up each day feeling energized and excited to start my day, with a clear purpose and direction. I have a successful career that allows me to make a positive impact in the world, while also giving me the flexibility to travel and spend time with my loved ones.

In my personal life, I am surrounded by a supportive and loving community of family and friends. I prioritize my health and well-being by staying active and eating nourishing food. I also make time for self-care practices such as meditation, journaling, and spending time in nature.

I value adventure and new experiences, so I make it a priority to travel and explore different cultures and cuisines. I also enjoy hobbies such as painting and hiking, which bring me joy and fulfillment.”

Crafting An Execution Plan

With a clear vision in place, transition to designing an actionable plan. This section breaks down the execution into practical steps:

  1. Decompose Tasks:
    • Break down your vision into goals, then break down those goals into bite-sized, achievable tasks.
    • Clearly define what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, and gather the necessary resources.
  2. Create a Timeline:
    • Sync calendars to manage your tasks across different areas of your life.
  3. Prioritize:
    • Direct priority towards tasks that have a big impact that can influence other goals.
  4. Time Allocation:
    • Allocate intentional chunks of time to high-impact tasks.
    • Focus on activities that bring the biggest bang for your buck in achieving desired outcomes.
  5. Streamline:
    • Make a master list of every project and milestone, inorder of priority.
  6. Check Ins:
    • Consistently check in to review the entire roadmap to keep focused. This could be weekly or monthly.
  7. Adapt:
    • Build flexibility into your plan to accommodate unexpected challenges.

Cultivate An Empowering Mindset

Your mindset plays a crucial role in determining whether you will succeed or fail in achieving your goals. An empowering mindset is one that is positive, growth-oriented, and focused on solutions rather than problems. Here are some ways to cultivate an empowering mindset:

Technique Key Points
Gratitude Journaling Regularly acknowledge and appreciate positive aspects of your life.
Cultivate a mindset of gratitude to enhance overall well-being.
Daily Affirmations Recite affirmations daily to reinforce positive beliefs about your strengths and worthiness.
Integrate affirmations into your daily routine for consistent self-empowerment.
Setback Interpretation View setbacks as valuable data for course correction, not permanent failures.
Embrace challenges as opportunities for learning and growth.
Mental Rehearsal Utilize mental rehearsal to vividly visualize desired outcomes.
Preinstall neural pathways by practicing success daily, aligning with elite athletes and leaders.
Install Positive Thought Patterns Foster thought patterns that open up possibilities rather than shutting them down.
Challenge and replace limiting beliefs with empowering alternatives.
Meditation for Inner Calm Dedicate time for meditation to calm inner critics and promote mental clarity.
Practice mindfulness to stay grounded and focused on your goals.
Doubts of Capability Challenge thoughts like “I don’t have what it takes” with the belief that you possess the tools for success.
Fears of Putting Yourself Out There Counter fears of failure in the public eye by affirming your capacity to handle challenges with resilience.
Overthinking Instead of Acting Overcome overthinking tendencies by trusting your intuition and taking decisive actions.
Perfectionism Paralysis Shift from the belief that everything must be perfect to start, to embracing imperfect progress as a step towards realization.
Recognize Negative Self-Talk Identify thoughts that sabotage progress and limit your potential.
Shift Mindset Transition your mindset to one where you are in control of designing your life.
Believe in Your Capabilities Adopt beliefs such as having the tools within you to create an incredible life and that your destiny is controlled by your initiative and discipline.